Oh. Pardon me for my infertility.

I am infuriated by a new report out today about infertility. The report says infertility rates are on the rise, yet no research is done as to why those numbers are rising. That would have been helpful. But it is this paragraph that has my blood boiling: 

"Canada's pregnancy specialists have been sounding an alarm over the risks of deferred motherhood. The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada — which has just issued new guidelines to doctors on "advanced reproductive age" and fertility — worries that women are placing too much blind faith in high-tech fertility treatments to help them conceive once they're ready to have a baby."

So, in my 20’s, when I was at the height of my fecundity I should have had a child? Forget that I was an emotional wreck, unstable in my career, and in relationships with all the wrong men. Yes, I should have birthed the spawn of whatever douche I was with at the time so that now, at 36, I would not be facing infertility with my husband. Is that what these scientists are suggesting?

There may be some women out there who put off children, but then there are some of us who did not meet the right partner until we were well into our 30’s. It’s not that I wanted to focus on an education, a career, travelling, or anything else other than a child. I was not emotionally or financially prepared to have a child. If I had a baby at 26, I would have been a struggling single mother. Instead, I chose to wait until I found a good partner, and in that stable relationship have a child. I was 34 before Husband I decided to try for a family because by then, we were stable in our marriage and in our lives to have a child. Biology has played a cruel joke on Husband and me. 

The article then goes on with the scientists complaining that more health care money is spent on multiple or complicated births associated with fertility treatments. We infertile folk just can’t win!

Are they advocating that women have babies no matter what their situation is at the time when they’re most fertile? Wouldn’t they then bitch about having to support single mothers, poor children, and all the social problems that can come from unstable women having babies? Take your pick.

I’m not having a baby so I can live the life of Riley then pay thousands of dollars for fertility treatments. I’m not having a baby because Husband and I are physically unable to.